Entries by Wayne Farrell


Optimism relates to one’s attitude and outlook on life. Your perception of possible future outcomes and to maintain positive, resilient and hopeful even in the face of adversity. Being optimistic about life is generally a good thing. However, we must also balance a potential optimism bias and realism. Optimism bias would be someone’s tendency to […]

Stress Tolerance

Stress tolerance relates to how well someone is able to cope with stressful situations. Does the person feel that they can positively affect the outcome and change the situation? Do they effectively manage the stress, or do they become overwhelmed and unable to function? These stressors can come in many forms. From the constant bombardment […]


Flexibility is one of the three subscales of stress management. As the name suggests, stress management relates to how well someone can cope with stress. It is how they deal with emotions in relationship to change and possible unpredictable circumstances. Whether they stay optimistic when facing setbacks and obstacles, or what overall impact it has […]

Impulse Control

Impulse control relates to one’s ability to resist impulsive or thoughtless behaviour before acting. By delaying reacting, one can choose a more appropriate response, rather than a primary reaction. It’s also the ability to weigh up options and consider the validity of the actions and the current situation. “Between stimulus and response there is a […]

Reality Testing

Reality testing relates to how well one can remain objective about what is going on in the world around them. Example will a person be able to recognize when emotions or personal bias influence their objectivity or acknowledge the situation for what it is. Being able to recognise it both in themselves and in others. […]

Problem Solving

Problem Solving is the first of the three subscales that relate to “Decision Making.” Decision making refers to how someone understands the impact that emotions have on, and how to use those emotions in the process of making decisions. Also, whether they can resist emotional impulses that may affect the decision-making process to make rational, […]

Social Responsibility

Social responsibility relates to having concern for the welfare of those in the wider society, and the overall environment. It is about working towards a greater good. To both actively and willingly contribute and help within one’s own closer social groups. “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi […]


In this article we look at empathy. Empathy relates to how well a person is able to recognize and understand how someone else is feeling. Being able to “put yourself in their shoes” and see things from their perspective. This does not mean to feel sorry for them, but rather to appreciate what they might […]

Interpersonal Relationships

Interpersonal relationships refer to one’s ability to build mutually beneficial relationships with others, based on trust and compassion. On the surface, it seems that some people are better able to develop healthy interpersonal relationships than others, but as is true for all subscales of emotional intelligence, it can be learned and improved upon. “Kind words […]


Emotional independence relates to how reliant someone is on others in various areas of their life. Can they plan, make decisions and act autonomously, or do they need help and support from others. Being emotionally independent does not mean being alone or never needing anyone else. It simply means that one does not need external […]


Assertiveness relates to how openly someone can communicate their beliefs and feelings. As well as being able to stand their ground and defend their point of view to others in a non-destructive way. Whilst respecting the validity of other people’s rights to an opinion that may be different to theirs. Assertiveness is not to be […]

Emotional Expression

The next of the five pillars of emotional intelligence is Self-Expression. This is made up of the three subscales – Emotional expression, Assertiveness and Independence. “Smile and the world will smile with you.” Self-expression is the outward and active expression of a person’s self-perception. It is how one faces the world. It looks at the […]

Emotional Self-Awareness

Emotional self-awareness is all about understanding and knowing oneself. Meaning, how well one can identify with the emotions you feel and the underlying causes for them. It includes being able to understand how one’s emotions impact on your thoughts and actions and how it all impacts on oneself and other people. “The best and most […]


Self-actualisation is the second subscale of self-perception. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, proposes that it is the highest level of psychological development. In this article, we will be looking at self-actualisation in the context of emotional intelligence and how it affects our behaviour. Self-actualisation is the pursuit of self-improvement and achieving personally meaningful objectives. It involves […]


Self-regard is one of the 3 subscales of self-perception that we will look at and discuss during this 15-article series of emotional intelligence. Self-perception describes how we know and manage ourselves. Self-regard describes a subjective view of how each of us generally values ourselves. Everyone has perceived strengths and weaknesses and self-regard describes one’s attitude […]

Vision Board

For some people the thought of creating a vision board may sound and feel a little airy-fairy. However, creating a vision board can have many benefits in business coaching, sports, life coaching, health, education etc. Some of the most successful people in the world routinely use vision boards to help clarify their dreams and keep […]

Write an eBook

Have you ever wanted to know how to write an eBook? Publishing eBooks can have many advantages and serve multiple functions for your business. Example: • Brand your business • Boost your credibility and authority • Provide value to your audience • Increase profits • Broaden your reach • Serve as a lead magnet Your […]

How to increase your profits

Many people are looking for different ways on how to increase your profits and income. One way to do this is by simply re-purposing your content. Presenting it to your target audience in different formats and ways to consume it. Whether it is writing an eBook, creating online courses or any of a number of […]

YouTube Marketing

YouTube marketing is essential to help grow your brand and product awareness. YouTube is designed to make it easy to find the type of video content you enjoy, and to stream it seamlessly from any device, wherever you go. Essentially it is a modern day spin on the traditional TV format, and it is always […]

LinkedIn Marketing

It is fair to say that LinkedIn marketing can play a very important part in your online marketing strategy. It is for this reason that we created this LinkedIn Marketing workbook. It is an overview of how to create and use LinkedIn. A starting point so to speak. It is designed to take you by […]

ABCD of Success

There is no doubt that we are facing some challenging times. However, that can be said throughout human history. There is always something that can preoccupy one’s mind and thought processes. Success can be achieved in any economic environment. The aim of this article is to inspire you to achieve more of what you want, […]

What to do during a pandemic

Understanding what to do during a pandemic will help you realize that a pandemic is not the end of the world. The impact that a pandemic can have on individuals psychologically, socially, and financially can be devastating. However, there are things that you can do to deal with the situation. Stop panicking We can be […]

Daily Growth

What would it mean to you if you could completely change your life in the next 70 days? 1% Daily growth could be the answer you have been looking for. There is a free eBook on how to use the principles of Kaizen to create daily growth in all areas of life. When it comes […]

Emotional Intelligence EBook

Emotional intelligence has grown in popularity and implementation over the last three decades. It is now agreed that having a strong emotional intelligence, (sometimes referred to as EQ or EI,) is very important. Unfortunately, it is not something we are usually taught at school. A question often asked is, “Is emotional intelligence an innate and […]

How To Stay Motivated

Knowing how to stay motivated can be tough sometimes. Often people say that they are procrastinating or not getting the outcomes that they want. They might even have had some adversity in life and their motivation levels drop. With all the things that demand out attention, it can be difficult to stay motivated or focused […]

How To Overcome Insomnia

Have you ever suffered from insomnia? Difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep? Leading you to feel tired, overwhelmed and stressed? If you do, you are one of the millions of people around the world that suffer from insomnia. With as many as 1 in 3 people in the UK having sleeplessness. Some people experience occasional […]

How To Overcome Procrastination

Learning how to overcome procrastination is perhaps one of the most important gifts you can give yourself. Imagine that the deadline for the task is tomorrow. It is 10pm, the coffee is poured and you sit down to finally get started on the task. You’ve known about it for the last 3 weeks, but only […]


Guilt as an emotion can be both and bad, depending on how it is interpreted and dealt with. Feeling guilt can help us to notice when we might be straying from the path of righteousness or doing something that is inappropriate. Teaching us that it might be time to do things differently. Unfortunately it can […]


What is leadership? Leadership is not necessarily about telling people what to do. A leader is somebody who inspires and empowers their followers to reach their own fullest potential. Leadership is not only the role of the CEO, manager, coach or somebody in charge of the organization. It is rather a responsibility that should be […]


Everybody knows that happiness has many physical benefits. That is why they say, laughter is the best medicine. When we laugh it boosts the immune system and decreases the stress hormone cortisol. In fact laughing releases endorphins, serotonin, etc. and boosts our memory and ability to learn and create. “Gentlemen, why don’t you laugh? With […]

Suppressing Emotions

Everyone has been guilty of suppressing emotions at some point in their lives. In fact, one of the prime directives of the unconscious mind is to suppress memories with negative emotions. The purpose of this is to allow us to continue on with life and not feel overwhelmed or controlled by those emotions. The unconscious […]

Dating Coach

This guest article was written by Bonita Grobbelaar. A successful dating coach, with a passion to help people find love. More people are turning to a dating coach to help them find love. If you have ever totally dismissed the idea, you may want to think again. Single can be fun, for a while. At […]

Career Change

Many years ago, one would start a job and be in that job until retirement. Nowadays people regularly do a career change. This can be for a number of reasons, but mostly I think it comes down to doing something that one loves and finds truly meaningful. After all, you spend so much time at […]

3 Tips To Reduce Dementia Risk

Dementia refers to a decline in mental ability severe enough to interfere with a person’s thinking, behavior, memory, and day-to-day life. According to the WHO, about 47 million people worldwide are living with dementia, but it is projected that 75 million people will live with some form of dementia by 2030. The most common form […]

Mental Health

With it being mental health week, you can’t help but notice articles or news story bringing up the subject. It is interesting that there is such a buzz right now. The question is how long it will last before mental health will be forgotten and replaced with the next hot topic. The millions of people […]

Attitude of gratitude

An attitude of gratitude is one of the best coaching tools that has had a massive impact on my life. Have you ever felt like the world was on top of you? Like life was getting you down and you felt like nothing was going your way? You are not alone. You see, I was […]

Achievement List

Writing an achievement list is a slight variation of the attitude of gratitude. With the attitude of gratitude, the aim is to assist the client in becoming more aware of the good things they have in their life. There are also times when clients are faced with new challenges that seem to be insurmountable. They […]

Lie Detection

Have you ever wished to be better at lie detection? Wanted to know how to tell if someone is lying or telling the truth? The first thing to know is that there is no “Pinocchio’s nose.” There is no “one” sign to know that somebody is telling the truth or a lie. There are however […]

Non-verbal Communication

Have you ever thought much about what your non-verbal communication is saying? As humans we rely so much on the words that we use. Yet they only represent about 7% of our communication. That means that the remaining 93% is through our non-verbal communication. This is extremely important as what we are saying with our […]

Limiting Beliefs

We all tend to have certain beliefs about ourselves. The beliefs that empower us, and the limiting beliefs that dis-empower us. Those stories we tell ourselves about what we can and can’t do. Or the stories and beliefs about why we can’t do something. One of the topics we discuss during the NLP training, is […]

Coaching Wheel

Often people talk about setting goals and being happier. The problem is that they don’t always know where to start. Or they may be working on the wrong area in their life. The coaching wheel is an invaluable tool to create awareness about areas in one’s life that might not be as great as you […]

10 Tips for achieving your goals

If you have ever set a goal, then you know that there are certain steps involved in achieving your goals. There are certain things that you will need to do and some things you might need to stop doing. Any goal that is worth having will require that you spend some time and effort in […]

Successful Business Meeting

Have you ever wondered how to run a successful business meeting? Have you ever been in a meeting and thought any of the following? What am I doing here? This has nothing to do with me. What is the point of this meeting? There is no outcome. When will it end? I have places to […]

Marketing Your Business

Let’s look at ways you can be marketing your business offline. Meaning, not on the internet. These techniques are relevant for most businesses. You will notice that there are so many ways that you can market your business. Some people would say that you should do them all, whilst others say focus on one or […]

Elevator Pitch

The 60 second elevator pitch is a very important factor not only for formal networking, but generally being able to grab somebodies attention if they asked you what you do. Imagine you if found yourself in a lift with your ideal client for 60 seconds. What would you say to grab their attention and interested […]

Networking Tips

Let’s now take a look at some networking tips, do’s and don’ts to enhance your networking success. In the last article we discussed how business networking should be seen more as farming than hunting. Understanding that networking is about building long term relationships of know, like and trust. It is hugely beneficial to have a […]

Business Networking

In this article, let’s look at increasing your success in business networking. Networking is one of the best ways to meet new contacts and clients. The problem is that many people approach networking incorrectly. Networking works, but you need to do it correctly. So let’s start with the basics first. This something I regularly discuss […]

Focus On Your Strengths

Do you focus on your weakness or do you focus on your strengths? Have you heard of the SWOT analysis? It is a tool that is often used in business and stands for strengths, weakness, opportunities and threats. You can also use the tool for other areas of your life. Many people will tell you […]

Life coach training in London

Coaching refers to the assistance given by a coach to an individual or group for unlocking their own hidden potential. In essence the coach supports the client to get from where they are, to where they want to be. However a good coach will do much more than that. The coach will help the client […]

Marketing your coaching business online

It is a sad fact that around 80% of new businesses fail within the first two years. You have invested time and money in becoming a coach and you have a passion to make a difference in the world. So how you can ensure that you are one of the coaches who succeed? Marketing your […]

Merry Christmas

Let me be the first person to wish you compliments of the season. I’d like to take this time to wish you a very Merry Christmas and a very prosperous New Year. At the same time I also like to offer you some free gifts. More on those later though as you need to watch […]

Make time for yourself

Have you ever struggled to say no to people? Have you felt that your boundaries have been overrun by people always taking “your time?” Have you felt like you need to make time for yourself? Would you cancel and NOT turn up to a client, just because you did not feel like it? If you […]

5 Tips to maintain commitment

Have you ever struggled to maintain commitment to a certain project or task? Many people start a new “regime”, only to find that it fizzles out over time. Some people would love to start something new, but they talk themselves out of it because they failed before. A great example of this is that New […]

Personality Types

In this article, I want to give you a quick idea of how people’s different personality types can have an effect on their interactions. Have you ever been in a situation where you and the other person did not agree or see eye to eye? Have you ever been in a situation where that lead […]

Time Management and Golf Balls

There is a popular metaphor about time management and golf balls, which is about making time for the important things in our lives. Often time’s people get so tied up with work that they make no time for family and the other really important things in life. The story goes that a professor holds up […]

4 D’s of Time Management

We have covered a number of time management tips in various articles. In this article, let’s have a quick look at the 4 D’s of time management and how they can help you to be more time efficient. This is something we discuss in more details during the live NLP life coaching training. What are […]

Creating Excellence

Humans have a wonderful ability to adapt and change. As such, you have the capability to create excellence in the area of life you choose. The question is how some people manage to create that excellence, whilst others get stuck or simply go with the flow. There is a very good technique used in NLP, […]

Sigmoid Curve

Your life, career and business is always moving in cycles. These cycles can be described by the Sigmoid Curve. As a business coach, I often come across business owners, who have various problems in creating the business they want. One such issue might be that they find themselves in various stages of the Sigmoid curve […]

10 Things to stop doing

We have all heard that it is beneficial to have a “to do list.” Have you given much thought about a “stop to do list?” Most people probably want to be happy and do the things that move them in that direction. There are also many things that we do, that dis-empower us on a […]

10 Tips for Coaching

Often new coaches ask for the top 10 tips for coaching that they can use in their practice. As a coach, we know that there are a number of things to include and remember during the coaching session. Each coaching session and client is unique, so a rigid step by step system is not best […]

Comfort Zone

Let’s talk about our comfort zone. You know, that safe little place where you kind of know how things pan out. The place where your life is OK and you are just cruising along. Where you know the good parts and the bad parts and you just get on with your life. The comfort zone […]

Best Life Coaching Academy

Are you trying to choose the best life coaching academy or NLP training company? You have probably noticed that there are lots of people offering NLP and coaching courses. That is great on the one hand as competition means that as a provider we need to stay at the forefront of development so as to […]

Reprogram your brain

In the last post we looked at the negative programming that happens to us on a daily basis. If we are not careful, then that can affect us and dis-empower a person. So in this article, let’s look at some ways how you can reprogram your brain. Scientists have discovered that our brain in pliable, […]

Negative Programming

Have you ever thought about how much negative programming we get in our lives? All the different input channels that tell us how bad life is and how much doom and gloom there is? It’s in our music, TV, movies, parents, teachers, magazines etc. I am not meaning that all of this is being done […]

Responsibility for change

In this article, let’s talk about the responsibility for change. Whose responsibility is it to create change in our lives? Whose responsibility is it to get value from the things that we do or buy? I appreciate the vendor should make sure it is fit for purpose. For the purpose of this article, let’s assume […]

Delayed Gratification

Have you ever heard people say, “I want so and so, and I want it now?” One of the big problems in life is that we have become obsessed with having instant gratification. We live in this instant gratification world where people want everything now. They don’t want to wait. They want fast food, fast […]

Perception is Projection

Perception is projection, presupposes that we can only perceive what is already in our consciousness. This comes from a guy called Carl Jung, who was a Swiss psychologist and one of the 3 fathers of psychology, along with Freud and Adler. He said what we perceive is who we are. What we perceive outside ourselves […]

How to become a coach

Do you want to know more about how to become a coach? What is your reason for becoming a coach? Are somebody who has early retirement coming up and want to stay busy. Or maybe you feel like you just want to give back to society. It may be that you are looking for a […]


This week we need to look at how to build rapport with others. Being able to build rapport is one of the most important skills in achieving the results that you want. During the NLP training we talk more about actually being in rapport with yourself, but for now, let’s focus on how to build […]


I would like to thank Joanna Pemberton for this guest article she has written, called Anchor. The opening scene is of a magnificent ship dropping anchor in the shimmering bay of Barbados. You breathe in, deeply, the Caribbean scent transcends your senses. Exotic smells assail you, Frangipani beckons you in promising friendliness and fun. The […]

Transactional vs Transformational Coaching

To help explain the difference and meaning of transactional vs transformational coaching, let’s look at the following metaphor. Imagine you were having problems with your car’s petrol tank, e.g. the tank was slowly leaking petrol. In a transactional coaching session, the coach may ask the client, “How can you prevent the tank from leaking. The […]

Communication cycle

The communication cycle happens when one person communicates with at least one other. This can be both verbal and non-verbal communication, but for the most part we will just look at verbal, between 2 people in this post. The communication cycle is something we discuss at length during the NLP practitioner course as it has […]

A coach should keep in mind

Even though the client is the one doing most of the work, there are some things a coach should keep in mind in the coaching process. This list is a starting point for what a good coach should keep in mind. If you want to find out more, check out the free introduction to coaching […]

What is Coaching?

Coaching has virtually no history and 20 or so years ago no one knew what coaching was. There have been people who have been coaching, but because they were not practicing standardized methods, the results were not always consistent. When I meet new people I still get asked, “what is coaching?” What is coaching not? […]


I often get asked during the NLP training how to work with clients that have addictions. NLP, Time Line Therapy®, hypnosis and other modalities such as Mindfulness are really useful techniques for assisting people to overcome addictions. In fact in the book, “Time Line Therapy® and the basis of personality,” written by Dr. Tad James […]

Sensory Acuity in the NLP training

In this post we are going to be talking about sensory acuity in the NLP training. From moment to moment we can notice minute changes a client makes. These are simply a few things we can notice from the many different changes one could notice. We are not saying that any of the things we […]

Chaining Anchors

In this chaining anchors video, you can see a live demonstration of the technique that is taught during the NLP practitioner training. The video has been edited to save time, but you can see the individual parts that make up the technique. Remember we said that chaining anchors is for when the present state and […]

Collapse Anchors

In the video, we are going to look at how to do collapse anchors in NLP and what it might be useful for. At the end of the video, there is also a live demonstration of a collapse anchors with one of the students in the life coach training. When do we use collapse anchors? […]

5 Reasons to Train with us

If you have spent any time looking for a reliable and quality course, then you would be forgiven to feel a little overwhelmed. There are many courses to choose from and so companies that promise you the world. With so many companies to choose from, it can be a mine field to find the right […]


In this video we are going to discuss anchoring. Now you know that we can anchor in various modalities, whether that is kinaesthetic, visual, auditory etc. Specifically in this video we will be talking about the kinaesthetic anchor. Meaning how you actually anchor the client by physically touching them. So here is a quick overview […]

NLP Techniques Introduction

Welcome and thank you for your time in watching these short videos on various NLP techniques. During the next few weeks, we are going to do a number of posts and short videos covering some of the NLP techniques that you would have learnt during the NLP practitioner or master practitioner training. This is not […]


I was recently asked how we would assist a client that is experiencing a lot of grief. The answer is not always straight forward, as it depends on where the client is in the grieving process. Also how long they may have been dealing with the grief or a particular part of it. If you […]

Forgetting curve

In the last article we looked at learning styles and the rate at which we learn. I would like to share an interesting point, but let me first ask you, “How much do you remember of what you learnt at school?” Probably not that much. It is suggested that from the age of around 5, […]

Learning Styles

In this article we are going to look at how understanding learning styles, is very important in coaching. It is quite obvious to say that we are all individuals and like different things. However what is not so obvious is that we also have our own learning styles or ways of learning. Unfortunately we often […]

Coaching Agreement

I have previously been asked by other coaches about what their coaching agreements should look like. So here is an example of a coaching agreement that you could use. If you decide to use this agreement, please ensure that it complies too all necessary and legal regulations in your country. Example of a coaching agreement. […]

Questions to avoid

In the last blog we looked at using powerful questions during coaching our clients. It is important to remember that as an accredited life coach, you are assisting the client to get to their own solution and not what you think they should do. Just as we want to use powerful questions, there are certain […]

Powerful Questions

What are powerful questions? In the last couple of posts we looked at the importance of effective listening and listening techniques. Now we can look at what powerful questions are in coaching. It is not the job of the coach to have a book of questions that will shock the client or leave them in […]

Silence in coaching

As an accredited coach the use of silence in coaching is a powerful skill. Remember the 80-20 principle. Your client should be talking 80% of the time and as the coach you should be listening 80% of the time. Having that silence and allowing your client the time to think, is a very important skill. […]

Active Listening Techniques

Want some active listening techniques you can use in your coaching session? When coaching it is important to listen to your client, as well as letting your client know that you are really listening to them. This will help build rapport and help your client feel more at ease. Allowing the client space, confidence and […]

Effective Listening

When we talk about coaching, it is quite obvious that it is important to practice effective listening. What does it mean to be a good listener though? Hearing is one thing, but listening is something else. So let’s quickly look at a definition for each. Hearing. The act of perceiving a sound by ear. Hearing […]

What coaching is not

It is important for both the client and the coach to know what coaching is and what coaching is not. More specifically, when to refer a client to another professional that can better serve the client’s needs. An example could be to refer a client who suffers from depression to a psychiatrist. Unless you have […]


Are you looking for a course that will give you both ICF and NLP certification? We are really excited about a fantastic development at Coaching with NLP. Not only is this part of our promise of continual improvement, it also sets us apart from other coach training programs. Over the last few months we have […]

NLP Coaching Training

Coaching is a still an unregulated market and there are a number of unscrupulous people who will promise the world and deliver very little to their clients. As a coach you have a responsibility to have the skills necessary to help your client. In the most basic terms, coaching is about helping the client to […]

Instant Inductions

Here is a short video with some examples of instant inductions that we talk about during the hypnosis training at the NLP master practitioner course. During the live hypnosis training we look at some ways of doing these inductions and how they may be used. In most hypnotherapy sessions you will experience the more traditional […]

Feed your mind

Answer the following questions honestly, “How do you make sure that you stay at the forefront of your industry and ahead of your competitors? Do you innovate and think about the future of your business or do you just plod along hoping for the best?” You can follow that up by asking yourself, “Am I […]

Exam Anxiety

So it is that time of year again when thousands of children around the UK take their SAT’s. This year my daughter is one of them and I was surprised when she told me she was nervous and worried about them. These are essentially teacher and exam based assessments to test on national education standards. […]

Is your business successful

I agree that the question about is your business successful or not, depends very much on your definition of success. So how do you measure that success and what can you do about it? Let’s look at a little example of what people are prepared to do to be successful first. Last week I had […]

Increase Self-Esteem

Last week we looked at some of the reasons why people develop low self-esteem. Let’s look this week at how we can increase self-esteem and be a more positive, optimistic person with self-beliefs that support and empower you. Here are some easy things to do that I use with my coaching clients and teach to […]

Stay Relevant

I recently did a telephonic radio interview on the subject of helping your business to stay relevant in the current times. The interview did not allow for enough time to actually discuss some of the important things to consider in today’s business environment, so here they are. One of the most important factors is to […]


Self-esteem is how a person evaluates themselves both emotionally and their self-worth. It is how one judges oneself. A person can apply and evaluate their Self-esteem both on an individual subject or globally. An example of a specific individual subject would be, “I am good at helping others.” On a global evaluation might be something […]

You can do it

Do you sometimes feel that life gets you down? Do you feel those consistent negative thoughts or self-doubt creep into your mind? Do you get demotivated because others tell you that you can’t do something? Have you ever heard somebody telling another, “You will never amount to anything?” Let me remind you that it is […]

What can a coach do for me?

And faster than you thought it could possibly happen, the new year rolled in. The last 12 months are in the rear view mirror and you are looking ahead to the next 12. You may have set yourself goals for the next 12 months. If I may, let me ask you a question, “Almost 2 […]

Sciatica and Life Coaching

I recently worked with a lady who has had sciatica for the last 10 months. She has been to the physiotherapist for months and was told that she had chronic sciatic pain. I agree that there are times when a pain is because something physical has happened. I mean if you fell off of a […]

What to look for in a Life Coach

More people are starting to look to life coaches to assist them in getting from their current state to a more desired state. Clients are looking at life coaching as an alternative to going to other professions they may have gone to in the past. In fact, I have had a number of clients who […]

Things to Consider in Business Coaching

There are a number of things to consider in business coaching. Business Coaching is in essence the same as any other coaching other than the client is needing assistance within some aspect of their business. Depending on the business coach, they will work with small to medium size businesses, up to large corporations. The business […]

Miracle Child

I want to share a remarkable story with you about a miracle child. You may or may not have known that there have been many cases of people who have lived without a brain. This story is about a boy who was born without a cerebellum and the struggle his mom went through. It is […]


Success means different things to different people. One can measure success in different ways. For some it is about money. For others it is about time with the family, etc. “Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.” Abraham Lincoln. Celebrate large and small success. In […]

Time to reflect

We all need time to reflect on what is working and what is not working. Without reflection, we can’t ensure that we stay on our intended path, or change course if necessary. If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. – W.0 Fields One of the core competencies in coaching is that the […]


“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is to not stop questioning.” Albert Einstein From an NLP point of view we believe that the client has all the resources they need to achieve to succeed and achieve their desired outcome. To paraphrase what Carl Jung said when talking about perception […]


The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. – Eleanor Roosevelt Welcome back to part 4 of the RESULTS Coaching Model. In the previous post we look at self-awareness. In this article we are going to look at what Understanding means and how that impacts on the coaching process. Helping […]

Self Awareness

Welcome back for part 3 of our Results Coaching Model. In this article we want to look at self awareness and what part that plays in the coaching model. “Whether you think you can or you can’t – you are right.” Henry Ford Working with the client and helping the client to create self awareness […]

Results Coaching Part 2

In this post we are going to look at the “E” in The Results Coaching Model, which stands for Establish. When we talk about “Establish” it serves to encompass a number of things. Establishing a coaching agreement, establishing rapport with the client, establishing what the client’s goals are and more. “I never cease to be […]

Results Coaching Part 1

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” — Chinese Proverb The RESULTS Coaching Model. R- Reason for being there E- Establish S- Self awareness U- Understanding L- Learning T- Time to reflect S- Success As a coach it is important to have an attitude of curiosity and to use powerful questions […]

Reasons vs Results Part 2

Welcome back for part 2 of the Reasons vs Results equation. Destiny is not a matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not something to be waited for, but rather something to be achieved.- William Jennings Bryan We create the results in our life. Now let’s focus on the results side […]

Reasons vs Results Part 1

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. – Mark Twain Where are you in the following reasons vs results equation? […]

Return On Investment For Coaching

Have you considered business or executive coaching? Have you wondered what the return on investment for coaching is? Is it really worth investing in your business by working with a business coach? In any organization it is important to have strong leaders with a clear vision and goals as to where the business is heading. […]

Knowledge is power

We have all heard the sayings, “Knowledge is power”, “You are what you eat” and “The more you learn the more you earn.” Here is my definition of knowledge, “Knowledge is the blend of information from present and past, from various sources. To be able to be able to organize that information into a usable […]

Personal development

What have you invested in your own personal development in the last 12 months? One of the best things you can do for yourself is to consistently feed your mind. Ever heard the saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.” Or said another way, “If you […]

Everybody needs a coach

Eric Schmidt says, “Everybody needs a coach.” Here is a 40 second video in which the then CEO of Google, made that statement. It is worth noting that he is now the chairman of Google. I have been asked before by people why they should have a coach. In fact one of my old bosses, […]


Do you know anybody who suffers from depression? Do you ever feel depressed? Do you ever get a feeling of being unworthy or feel unloved? These are just a couple of descriptions somebody who suffers with depression may give. Enjoy this short video about Anne who got rid of her depression. It seems there are […]

Thoughts affect your DNA

Have you wondered what affect language and emotions can have on your body? Zig Ziglar use to call it stinking thinking. Have you ever thought about how your thoughts affect your DNA? In this short video, Deepak Chopra explains how our emotions, desires and imagination can influence the biological responses in our bodies. There has […]

What is PTSD?

PTSD affects thousands of people around the world. PTSD was made famous by the soldiers returning from Vietnam, however it is not just limited to people who have been in war. Many people have post traumatic stress syndrome due to hijackings, burglaries, armed robberies, rape and other terrible things that may have happened to them. […]

Relationship Coaching

If you search YouTube, you will find some great videos of Tony Robbins doing some relationship coaching with couples. There are some great examples of how effective coaching can be and to help people overcome almost any obstacle they thought was too much for them. Relationship coaching. There is many ways, techniques and modalities to […]

Quit Smoking

Have thought about how you could quit smoking? Here is a short video that was used as the national Quit Now anti-smoking television ad campaign in Australia. Many experiments have been done showing the effects of smoking. In this video they showed the aorta of a 30 year old person. Imagine smoking 20 cigarettes a […]

Placebo Effect

Dr. Deepak Chopra explains the placebo effect and its connection to integrative medicine. Patients often show significant improvement of their condition that can not be credited to the treatment. So if we can create positive change in our lives and bodies without medicine, why aren’t we doing more of it? I believe one reason is […]

Past Life Regression Hypnosis

Past life regression hypnosis is something I get asked about every now and then. It seems like more and more people want to find out if they had lived in a past life? Who were you in your past life? Were you a rich member of royalty or did you live a less flamboyant lifestyle? […]

The Mind Body Connection

In this 20 minute video, Dr. Deepak Chopra talks more about the mind body connection. Looking at the relationship of Integrative Medicine. If you have not yet, then I would recommend reading Deepak Chopra’s book, Quantum Healing. In there he talks about the neurotransmitters that bathe every cell in our body. He calls this the […]

How negative emotions effect us

In this video, Dr’s Tad and Adriana James talk about how negative emotions effect us. You can find out how to improve your overall well being with Time Line Therapy®, by learning how to let go of these emotions. Whilst it is important to be able to feel our emotions, it is not healthy to […]

BBC: Science of Hypnosis Documentary clip

Are you visiting the dentist any time in the near future? Many people are terrified of going to the dentist. Here is a video from the BBC: Science of Hypnosis Documentary about how hypnosis can be used at the dentist. I must admit, I am very lucky to not have any fears about going to […]

You are not your behaviour

Let’s be totally honest. It is so easy for us to tell a child they are bad or naughty for doing a something wrong. It is so easy for us to say to another person they are useless or lazy because they don’t do what we expected of them. We have all done this in […]

Time Management Tip

Welcome back to the third exercise and another time management tip. The question many coaching clients ask is, “How can I free up time and be more productive?” Previously we looked at time management and time-saving-tips. By completing this simple time management sheet below, you can determine where your time is being spent. You will […]

Time Saving Tips

In the last post we spoke about time management. In this post I want to continue using other time saving tips. These time saving tips are great and they work from the theory that everything that is incomplete drains energy from you and your success. Also, having these things done will save you time in […]

Time Management

One of the most common things my clients say is that they don’t have time to do all the things they mean to. They have problems with their time management. Meaning to do something is great, but the job is not done unless you do it. Think about this for a second. “I meant to […]

A Coach is not just for Christmas

How often do people go to bed at night, worrying about things that have not yet happened tomorrow? How often do people wake up in the morning, trapped negative feelings about things that might happen to them that day? Most things that people get anxious about never actually happen. What if you could be free […]


Anxiety is a problem for so many people around the world. Let me start by saying that I am not a medical doctor and I would suggest that if you suffer with anxiety, that you speak to your doctor. Let them diagnose you and give you a referral to see somebody about life coaching or […]

Goals Setting Part 2

Welcome back to part 2 of how to set goals and achieve them. In the last post, we spoke about setting SMART goals. Today I want to talk more about other things that are important to achieving your goals. You see achieving your goals is like having the world in your hands. When we look […]

Goal Setting Part 1

Today, I want to share with you what we mean in terms of goal setting in NLP. This is a 2 part article, with this being part 1. Goal setting the SMART way The first thing is to make sure when you are goal setting is that they are SMART. Now you may have heard […]

Stop smoking

3 Reasons to stop smoking today. Smoking is a very controversial topic and in many social circles it is totally unacceptable. Many people are against smoking because of the proven health implications that could eventually lead to a heart attack or other diseases. To become a non-smoker has many benefits. Do you want to stop […]


Stress causes anxiety, disease and melt downs on a daily basis and can be a silent killer. Did you know that stress shuts down your body functions like your digestive system, suppresses your immune system, reproductive system and messes up your metabolism? So when you are stressed, your body does not fight infections and diseases […]


Hypnotherapy has helped hundreds of thousands of people around the world overcome their “problems.” Every person dreams of living a life filled with success and prosperity. Hard work and consistent effort plays a big role in this. Your state of mind also determines your level of performance and drive to success. Often we find ourselves […]

Life coach. 5 Signs you need one

A life coach is there to help when things go wrong. It happens to everyone at some point or another. You wake up one morning and realize that you have lost the passion in your life. Either you went through a very hard break up, or you are deeply unfulfilled in your job. The daily […]

NLP in Therapy

NLP has traditionally mostly been talked about as a therapeutic discipline. It can however be used in all areas of life. There is too much to cover in one article, so let’s have a brief overview of how you might use NLP in therapy or life coaching. Some ways to use NLP in Therapy. • […]

NLP in Education

We have many students from all walks of life who come and do our NLP courses and life coaching courses. Many students want to know how to use NLP in education. NLP takes learners who you might think of as disenfranchised learner’s and gives them back the ability of being able to learn. From an […]

NLP in Business

Let’s look at some of the ways you can use NLP in business. Whether you are a business owner, manager, sales person, employee or business coach; utilizing the skills and techniques taught in NLP will help you. We also use NLP a lot in business coaching with our clients. The NLP communication model is really […]


I often have clients come to me and say that they struggle with procrastination. They typically say the same things. They wish they could get going or moving on a particular thing, but just don’t have the motivation. They feel like they are stuck with no options. Here is a short exert from Wikipedia: “In […]

Hypnosis and religion

I regularly get asked how I reconcile hypnosis and religion. Well, let’s start off with a couple of things about what hypnosis is and what it is not. A state in which we bypass the critical faculty, the part of you that cares to distinguish between what is real and what is not. As an […]

Anger Management

Anger management courses are jumping up everywhere. Why is that? Why are people so angry? Anger is a naturally occurring emotion and can be caused by internal and external factors. Internal factors include things like events that happened in your past that still have an emotional effect on you. External circumstances could be things like […]


You may be asking yourself, ”Why do I need coaching?”. Well the short answer is that everybody could do with coaching. Even coaches have coaches to hold them accountable, move towards their own goals and to have a sounding board. A coach is somebody who is there to help and support you to achieve your […]

Five principles for success

In NLP we use many different techniques to help our clients achieve the goals they want to. When it comes to success, we incorporate the 5 principles for success. To achieve our desired outcome, there are 5 simple steps to help us achieve what we have set out to do or to take control of […]

10 Reasons not to have hypnosis

Hypnosis and the reasons against it. • You may feel totally relaxed. Hypnosis is a totally natural state of relaxation. In fact, we all go into trance every single day. Many hypnotists will also give their clients a positive suggestion like “When you wake, you will feel totally relaxed, like you have just had an […]

Why do I need coaching

A coaching relationship between a coach and the client is a very special one of trust and respect. The coaching relationship is one in which the coach is there to help the client get from where they are (point A), to where they want to be (point B). That is to say, the client has […]

History of NLP

NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. “Neuro” relates to the nervous system, which is the mind and through which are in experience is processed by way of the 5 senses, which are visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, olfactory and gustatory. “Linguistic” relates the language and other non-verbal communication systems trough which our neural network representations are coded […]