Welcome back for part 2 of the Reasons vs Results equation.
Destiny is not a matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not something to be waited for, but rather something to be achieved.- William Jennings Bryan
We create the results in our life.
Now let’s focus on the results side of the dichotomy. Let’s pretend we were at the cause for wherever we are in our life. You may argue and say something like “I did not ask to be in a car accident,” or “I did not ask to be shot,” or whatever bad thing could have happened in our lives. I only ask that we IMAGINE that we were at cause for everything that has happened and where we may be in our lives. That the rest are merely reasons and now we want to focus on the result.
The fact is that we are where we are based on our conscious and unconscious decisions that have led up to that point. Here is an example. Let’s imagine a client has been involved in a bank robbery and they were held up at armed gun point. So now they suffer with PTSD. I know that sounds a little extreme and I can assure you that there are many worse things that have happened to clients.
Your decisions affect your results.
The fact is that the client was at that particular bank at that particular point of time, based on their conscious and unconscious decisions. Now please remember, we mentioned before that this does not suggest that the person is at fault or to blame. It merely points out that we are where we are based on our conscious and unconscious decisions. This is one of the fundamental things I discuss with my clients and once they accept that fact, they are empowered to take the right action to achieve the results they want.
Now we can take the learning from the experience to help us in the future. I realize this may be uncomfortable for some people to accept. Again there is no evidence to suggest that we can always control what happens to us. What it does do is to free us up from the blame and victim hood mentality to focus on the results we truly want. This is a much more empowering position to be in and is a springboard to achieving the results we want.
We need a clear goal and plan to create our results.
There is one very important thing to remember here and that the action plan and goal need to be SMART. It is not feasible to think that one can become a fighter pilot in a week when you have never flown a plane before and have no aptitude for navigation or maths. We need to have a clear goal, with the right knowledge and steps necessary to achieve the result we want.
This is where the R.E.S.U.L.T.S coaching model comes in to play. In the next series of blog posts, we are going to cover the individual stages in the Results coaching model and how to lead our clients to the success they are looking for.
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