Do you sometimes feel that life gets you down? Do you feel those consistent negative thoughts or self-doubt creep into your mind? Do you get demotivated because others tell you that you can’t do something? Have you ever heard somebody telling another, “You will never amount to anything?”
Let me remind you that it is your life and you are responsible for whatever you are and whatever you achieve. You can do it if you put your mind to it.
Aristotle said, “Whatever we learn to do, we learn by actually doing it; men come to be builders, for instance, by building, and harp players by playing the harp. In the same way, by doing just acts we come to be just: By doing self-controlled acts, we come to be self-controlled; and by doing brave acts, we become brave.”
So by consistently doing the thing we want to be or want to become, we can eventually achieve it. Whether that is in your career or life. Continue on doing it until you can it. It has been suggested that to become truly good at something it will take around 10,000 hours of practice. Now that is not to say you can’t learn to do things much quicker. It implies that it takes time, focus and determination to get good at a particular thing. Unfortunately most people are not prepared to put in the effort and practice.
You can do it by changing your focus.
In his book, “Why Your Life Sucks,”Alan Cohen’s says, “Imagine two lawyers in a courtroom inside your head. One is arguing for your possibilities and you achieving your goals. The other is arguing for your limits and why you don’t deserve what you want. Who will win? The lawyer whom you pay the most. The way you pay these lawyers, however, is not with money; it is with your attention.”
So where is your attention? What are you focusing on? Are you focusing on the bad things that have happened and use them as excuses for not having what you want? Are you focusing on the things you don’t want?
Cohen also said that: “Your real enemies are the self-defeating thoughts, paltry expectations, and beliefs that you must live at less than full throttle. You will experience as much pain as you are willing to accept. You do have control over how much you hurt. Pain happens; suffering is optional. You can choose thoughts that bring you relief rather than imprisonment. To find your freedom, stand at the doorway of your mind and monitor your thoughts. Notice which ones lift you and which ones drag you down. Then, like a bouncer at an exclusive party, admit only those on the invitation list and send the others back where they came from. Fate is not a net cast over you by capricious fortune; it is a garden you cultivate by the thoughts you attend to. Shift your attention and you will shift your life.”
In pursuit of happiness.
Shift your attention to what you do want and focus stubbornly on what you want to achieve. Make it happen. A great example of somebody who has actually done that is the true story “In pursuit of happiness,” featuring Will Smith. If you have not yet seen it, then I can highly recommend it as a must watch. It is an amazing true story about a man who never gave up and today is one of the most successful people alive.
You see, you can either lay around, complaining about what you don’t have. Coming up with every excuse why life sucks. Or take control of your life and make it happen. Join the many people who have said, “Enough is enough” and make your dreams come true. Believe in yourself that you can do it.
One of the best ways to achieve your goals and to help you stay inspired is to work with a coach. Find one in your local area and have a friendly cup of coffee. Find out how you too can take control of your life and make it happen.
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You can do it.